One moment please
“So, how do you develop a relationship?” This question was asked of me
when I was doing a Relationship Service seminar for the YMCA. I have to
admit that the question was completely out of my preparation. We had been
talking “theory” from the beginning to that moment, but this woman wanted
some concrete methods for developing client or, for that matter, any
relationship.
After pausing for a minute to collect my thoughts, I stated that the only thing
I could do was tell her the truth from my experience. Somewhat shyly, I
began to tell her the story of how my wife and I saved our relationship. My
mind started to flash back to a time when Karen and I together attended a
State Fair a few years ago. There, I fortunately won two red velvet hearts as
a consolation prize in one of the midway games. I remember, at that time I
broke apart the two hearts and gave one to Karen and kept one for myself.
We had been married for 10 years, and we were going through a bit of a “flat
spot” in our relationship. We still loved each other, but something was
missing in our couple life. We all knew that. I paid no attention, but Karen –
my wife, didn't.
Karen did not want the “flatness” to continue so one day she came up with a
plan. She took one of the hearts stored in the cupboard for a long time and
hid it in my towel, while I was taking a shower. When I went to grab my
towel, the red heart suddenly spilled out. As I bent down to pick it up, the
warmth of its red colour waked me up. It made me flash back to the time
when I won the red hearts at the former fair as well as the passionate love
Karen and I felt for each other at that moment. Holding the red heart in my
hands, a current of fresh emotion as a wave watered my so-long-stunted soul.
I calmly recalled all the bygone days and smiled.
I then hid the heart in her dressingchest drawer. Then, she hid it in my
wardrobe. I hid it in the refrigerator. She wrapped it in plastic wrap and hid it
